It’s important to know what you are getting into before you dive into a relationship.
Here are 8 things I wish I knew before getting into a relationship.
- Consistency is key
It is the biggest issue I’ve had with my ex. The only thing that kept her with me was the inconsistency. Now, this isn’t necessarily bad, but it will work against you when things come up, or you don’t see eye-to-eye on something you didn’t see eye-to-eye on earlier.
- It’s all about compromise
You’re going to do things that are hard for you, but if you make them your goal for the time you’re together, then you’ll work on them together, and they will get easier.
- Guys are an exception
When it comes to me, I’m a person of extremes. This is one thing I’ve learned through getting into relationships over the years. I’m either sweet and loving, or I’m abusive. It gets annoying, so I try my best to keep things in check, but it is not always possible.
- It’s too hard to get back at them
You never will be able to get a girl you have fucked. A good girl is hard to find. Girls have a bad habit of dating douchebags. Go for a good girl or be prepared for nothing. Most girls love to fuck boys. Even they will get bored after a while. Some girls try to seduce you before they tell you how much they love you. She will want you to sleep with her first. And when she tells you she loves you, she will do anything for you. She will give you everything. Your life is in your hands. Be careful. Always give her the respect you deserve. Treat her like a king.
- You don’t own your partner, you’re just dating
When it comes to guys being obsessed with their girls, I guess it’s kind of normal and probably not too uncommon to find guys who are only looking for ‘one thing’ with women.
What is most un-normal is that they try and ask other men to hook up with their girlfriend/girlfriends, for ‘their own personal gain. That’s not cool, it’s just rude.
Sometimes, like me, men find themselves in one of these types of relationships and often suffer from severe confusion. The thing that bothers me the most about this is that the female will never hold out for their man to say anything to them about their other ‘boyfriends’ or about what’s going on behind closed doors.
Now, if a woman is being attracted to other men and being pursued by other guys, she’s in a completely different category of an anomaly.
- Focus on yourself first
First and foremost, don’t even try to think that anyone could replace the person you are with. Always keep your head above water. It’s so easy to forget about yourself and not give yourself the attention you deserve. Find time to have some me time and remind yourself of who you are as a person and the things that make you unique.
I get way too caught up in trying to be everything to everyone and that starts to cut into my alone time and my “me” time. Before you know it, you’re into a relationship but you’re nowhere near where you want to be. Just remember that the person you are with is so much more than the other half of you.
- Do what makes you happy
This is probably the biggest lesson I learnt from my past relationships. In dating a lot, it never mattered who you were dating because you were dating the job and not the person.
At the end of the day, it’s your happiness that you should care about.
I never cared about someone who was shagging up my friends and rubbing my ex’s face in my bed.
I got tired of it when she did it to me too and I stopped spending time with them, stopped communicating with them, and eventually cut off all my ties to them.
Once you know what makes you happy, you know that’s what you should be prioritizing, and in the end, you will achieve what you are looking for.
- You don’t have to fall in love with every woman you meet
Love is not the be-all and end-all to a relationship.